Am I the Back Pocket Girl ?

24 April 2016

My dating chronicles aren't the best however I didn't think I was that bad. However, I kept getting the same result - responses but no action. I'm not talking about that type of action lol, but just nothing. It's like some guys find a girl they like but can't commit. I call these guys "baby boys" - thank you Adebayor for coming up with a wonderful name for it. Guys (disclaimer - some guys) keep back pocket girls for their own ego just knowing they are going to reply to the once in a while text messages or calls, it gives them this weird buzz. And yet we still keep waiting, I have never looked at so many forums to why a guy doesn't text. Then I found something, I resonated with - the Back Pocket Girl. She is always there, for support, comfort, friendship and everything else a girlfriend is. However, she doesn't have the title girlfriend or friend- she doesn't even have a title which is worse. I realized I was the back pocket girl and it was an awful realization - quite painful also. Then I told myself no, fudge that I am not waiting to fluff your ego, I'm going to enjoy myself. Back Pocket Girls aren't side chicks - they get no attention at all until its convenient, just there waiting for "I've been busy with work" - no guy is that busy.  Ideally you are what the guy is looking for but they want to surf the sea for something else. My advice don't be that girl, we are worth so much more.

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Ese

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Is it possible to be crap at dating ?

15 April 2016

I recently concluded to myself that I will never understand the opposite sex. I have tried and cannot break down the walls of confusing guys. It is a hard journey and just a lot of unnecessary effort that I am not going to waste. I have to think and wonder whether it's my fault that I attract guys who don't know what they want. I am 22, so you would think guys my age are sensible and are ready for steady relationships. NO - you are wrong and so I am, guys will never know what they want. (My disclaimer - some guys) but it is still so long dating. I just want something easy going and not confusing - how hard is that. It's annoying because sometimes you think you have found that person - then BANG he is child in a grown man's body. I have these questions running in my minds like when will he text back - LIKE WHY DO I CARE.  I will give some advice as I can only try to be positive on this blog.

1. Keep yourself busy i.e. go out with friends or family, pick up a sport, volunteer and do something creative with your time or finish your essays.

2. Don't go through his social media because it will make you annoyed and want to punch something repeatedly. 

3. Just remember - life is too short to worry over stupid guys (disclaimer - some guys).


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Lots of Love 

Ese 

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